My Boss is a Jerk.
Hi there!
I was reading a well known productivity blog earlier today and it pissed me off.
It was 10 AM. I was on my 15th coffee of the day, working through last year’s to-do list. I’d eaten a Mars bar for breakfast cause I thought I didn’t have time to make anything else. My veins were protruding through my eyeballs. I felt confused, tired, overworked, uninspired.
And here was this blogger dude talking about how he walks bare feet on the beach every morning, meditates for hours a day, eats only raw food, plays with his kids all day and breezes through is to-do list in a calm and efficient flourish of Zen-like productivity!
Bully for him, I thought. There is little in the world more annoying than smug productivity advice.
It would be great to be like that, I thought. It really would.
But I have a boss who forces me to work late in the evening. I have a boss who interrupts me with work questions at all hours of the day. I have a boss who stops me from spending quality time with my family and friends.
He’s insensitive. He’s fickle. He fails to see the big picture. He bosses me around.
Yes, my boss is a jerk.
My boss is me.
My boss is a jerk. My boss is me.
Ah, the perils of the home business owner…
One of the reasons we start a home business is to get away from the control of someone else.
No longer will I have to put up with that angry, irrational, unappreciative control freak who treats me like crap, we think.
And that’s great.
But it sucks if you then become that irrational unappreciative control freak and start treating yourself like crap.
Whoops.
In the Jalopy Gang Newsletter I sent out to my awesome V.I.P. list yesterday (sign-up at the top of the screen) I shared a great question to ask yourself throughout the day when you’re about to make a decision or take a new action, or enter a new environment. It was this:
Is this what being good and respectful to myself looks like?
Well… I’m an enormous hypocrite and I haven’t been asking myself this too often.
And if I had I certainly wouldn’t be eating Mars bars for breakfast…
So yes, it’s time to coach myself a little better.
See you soon!
JJ Jalopy.
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Comment by Rob Northrup
2 June 2009
Ah yes, if only we could all take all of our own advice, what a wonderful world it would be…
I see trees of green…….. red roses too
I see em bloom….. for me and for you
And I think to myself…. what a wonderful world.
I see skies of blue….. clouds of white
Bright blessed days….dark sacred nights
And I think to myself …..what a wonderful world.
The colors of a rainbow…..so pretty ..in the sky
Are also on the faces…..of people ..going by
I see friends shaking hands…..sayin.. how do you do
Theyre really sayin……i love you.
I hear babies cry…… I watch them grow
Theyll learn much more…..than Ill never know
And I think to myself …..what a wonderful world
Seize the Day,
Rob
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Comment by Steve Chambers
3 June 2009
All too often our supervisors confuse activity with productivity and they load us down with meaningless activities and crap that literally destroys our productivity.
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Comment by Anthony Lemme
3 June 2009
Amen to what Steve wrote. Busy is not productive. When you hear someone complain about how busy they are, they are usually not so productive. I know this from personal experience.
And yes…your boss is a total wanker! You tell him I said so!
But…my boss is a bigger one!
Let’s skype soon!
Anthony
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Comment by Duane Cunningham
3 June 2009
Hi JJ,
Im with Anthony! I don’t like yours or his boss at all! And mine is just a complete idiot! :-p
When are we doing the world domination podcast??
Duane
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Comment by JJ Jalopy
3 June 2009
@Duane & Anthony — haha… you guys are such assholes! I love it!! I’ll send you guys an email later today. We’ll need some planning to figure out a time when we’re all awake!
@Steve – You’re so right. A lot of the time we’re just being what I like to call a “busy idiot”. Doing lots of things. Not moving much forward…
Comment by JJ Jalopy
3 June 2009
@Rob Thanks mate. I sang along with you!
Comment by John Ho
3 June 2009
JJ,
Ah, like what in my Pure Numerology intro, “why run if you are not moving forward?”
I close deal asap (e.g. whenever I sense the buyer is ready to buy the property).
Current case: Just one person came thru’ the 1st open for inspection, not interested. Then 2nd party came for a private inspection which I guided him to come on the same day he rang to make enquiry. Liked it. Shot him the photos for him to fwd to his overseas parents for approval. The next day, lined up for him to come the following day to make an offer. Meantime, discussed with vendor what price was acceptable to her. When the offer came thru’, I knew the vendor would accept. So “done deal”. Clean, fast. Go to see vendor with a testimonial written for them to sign & give to me. Human nature: laziness. So I always go extra mile to get the best price & then prepare a testimonial for the vendor to sign. They all sign.
John Ho
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Comment by Susan
3 June 2009
Intriguing introduction JJ with a wonderful surprise — I suspected your boss was you and liked the way you confirmed that. As always, great graphic.
Sue Crutcher, Baby Steps to Success Expert
Comment by Darryl Pace
3 June 2009
JJ,
As usual, great post. We definitely need to take good care of the goose that lays the golden eggs (ourselves).
Also, I like your method of promoting your newsletter and your blog.
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Comment by Philip Graves
3 June 2009
It’s so easy to ignore our own advice; I’m going to listen to my eyes and give them a rest from this screen!
Great blog, great VIP club too. I’m very happy to receive your wisdom – the last Ezine was wonderously good!
Philip Graves
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Comment by Bob Kaufer
3 June 2009
Boy with a breakfast like that you need to visit with Darryl.
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Comment by Don Shepherd
8 June 2009
if you didn’t wash that candybar down with a beer it wasn’t a complete breakfast. You need to come to Central Oregon where the sun shines 320 days a year and take a vacation.
Don Shepherd
Central Oregon Camphiker
Comment by Pam Schulz
11 June 2009
Love this post! Your question is worth some serious pondering – Is this what being good and respectful to myself looks like.
Pam
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Comment by JJ Jalopy
12 June 2009
@Susan – Thanks very much. I’m glad you enjoyed it!
@Darryl – Glad you dig my over-the-top promotion techniques. I’d love to claim it’s a well-thought-out strategy but really I’m just entertaining myself!
@Phil – Indeed my friend. Do as I say. Not as I do. I have another post coming soon about how this. Loved your latest Mindshop! It’s my second favourite E-Zine!
@Bob – Yeah. I really should listen to Darryl. That guy knows his onions. And his antioxidants.
@Don – High Five Cowboy! I’d love to come hang with you in Central Oregon. Let’s drink beer and go fishing. I’ll bring my hat!
@Pam – Big hugs to you and Rod!
Comment by Single Boomer Dating Success Coach
13 June 2009
OK, so more eating of organic mixed greens it is. Fewer Mars bars!
But I AM still gonna drink my beloved Peets coffee every morning!
yum!
yeah my boss can be a real shrew!
Best regards,
April Braswell
Single Boomer Dating Expert, Relationship Success Coach
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Comment by Lisa McLellan
28 June 2009
I love my boss, he is a dear sweet guy. I can’t quite call myself my own boss just yet as I believe my website should be my only job. I still work for someone else (such a sweetheart) a few hours a week and then of course I’m working for my clients (the parents) when I’m babysitting.
Lisa McLellan
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